It’s Never Too Late To Be What You Might Have Been
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“It’s easy to stand in the crowd but it takes courage to stand alone.”
I’ve started, what has now become, a series about life lessons and what I’ve learned as a young adult in this fast pace, ever changing world we live in. The first post titled Keep Your Head Held High set the precedent for this so called “series” that I now refer to these posts as. I also posted Words of Encouragement: A Journey That Never Ends, which I received a lot of positive feedback from friends and visitors from the site! All of you have motivated me to keep expressing myself openly through my
not so good writing. With that said I have some more advice, some may refer to it as knowledge, that I’ve learned and wish to pass along to you. Hopefully these posts as a collective whole will resonate with some of you or at the very least someone will be able to take something valuable or positive away from these posts.
Never apologize for having an opinion
I read about this in an article and it settled home with me because I truly believe in expressing yourself without worrying what others think. You nor anyone else’s opinion is right or wrong. Speak your mind freely and say only what you mean. We all have our own opinions. Just remember to be receptive to those around you and take into consideration their thoughts and opinions, even if you might disagree. Most of the time, especially in the workplace, two sides will have to compromise and find a common ground in the middle.
“Trust is the hardest to find and the easiest to lose.”
Choose your friends wisely
Most people, not everyone, will use you for their own personal gain. Surround yourself with people that have similar qualities and traits as yourself. Obviously you don’t want to surround yourself with exact replicas of yourself, but when you surround yourself with people who have similar core values, mindset, and goals you’ll find that you can relate to those people on a higher and more intimate level. I’ve learned that sometimes you have to open yourself up and be more vulnerable–to put yourself out there. I’ll leave you with another quote, “life is so much richer when you take the walls down and allow yourself to be vulnerable.”
Believe in yourself
It may be difficult to believe in yourself at times, but have faith in your ability to do things and grow as a person. If you’re good at what you do don’t second guess whether or not you really are good at what you do. Kind of obvious huh? It’s easier said than done though! I went through a period where I had doubts and didn’t believe in myself. It’s an easy hole to dig, but even more difficult hole to climb out of. Don’t let yourself fall into that mindset.
If you don’t believe in yourself then why would anybody else want to believe in you? The way you carry yourself has the power to exhibit qualities such as weakness, confidence, trustworthiness, etc. Have the confidence to show others that you believe in yourself. You’ll find that others will be more willing to invest their time, money, and give you opportunity that otherwise wouldn’t exist.
Love what you do
Whether it’s work, hobbies, or anything else..be certain that you love what you’re doing. Most people relate the phrase “love what you do” when referring to a person’s job or career. If you don’t love what you do you’ll be miserable, absolutely miserable. People will see that there’s no passion in whatever it is you’re doing. It takes some people years to figure out what they love to do. I still don’t know what exactly it is that I can tell others that I absolutely love doing. I used to think it was online marketing because of the challenge involved and potential money to be made. Unfortunately, the corporate world has shown me otherwise! I guess when you know, you just some how know. Maybe you’ll get a warm and fuzzy feeling inside of you…who knows. When you do know, people around you will see the passion in your eyes, see a difference in your body language and attitude, and hear a difference in the tone of your voice.
I guess I’ve kind of experienced it with one of the sites my brother and I started–the music blog we run. When I talk to people about the site, music, people I’ve met, and amazing experiences I’ve had over the years some of you have responded that Glenn and I should do something in that space for a living. Let me tell you, I’d absolutely love to drop everything else I do but unfortunately there are other obstacles we must overcome first. We’re working on it…so hopefully one day. Right now, I guess you could just say it’s a fun hobby.
Don’t get me wrong though, I understand that sometimes we all can’t jump into something with two feet in and do what we love. We have all made and will make more sacrifices down the road towards doing what we love. You have to start somewhere though, right? It’s better to have a short life that is full of what you like doing than a long life spent in a miserable way…
Here’s a great video (3 minutes 9 secs) that went viral on Facebook this past week. It does a great job depicting what I tried to in the paragraph above. The song featured in the video is by Ludovico Einaudi Divenire.
“The vision of a champion is someone who is bent over, drenched in sweat, at the point of exhaustion when no one else is watching.”
Don’t be good, be great
This one sort of falls into the previous statement from above–love what you do. Whatever it is you do in life, strive to be great. Give it your all, not 100%… 110% every day. Why are there superstar athletes and other athletes who play the same sport, but aren’t as good? That’s because they excel at what they do. They’ve decided long before they became superstars to be great. Superstars become champions because they’re great at what they do.
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Despite my political beliefs and whether or not I like/dislike Obama, Vicetone did a great job putting together quotes and creating the above track! On a last note, I almost used this picture as the main image for this post but decided not to. A well deserved runner up though!